Ah, Valentines day. A time for hopeless romantics to show the object of their desires just how much they mean to them… or perhaps a day when, despite our best efforts, relationships are strained by words and actions which do not seem to meet our partner’s needs or expectations?

Chances are, if you found yourself in the latter category this year, it might just be something to do with your preferred representational system, or rather, the differences between your preferred representational system and that of your partner.